Direction, not intention...

When it comes to most Family Law matters emotion, more importantly how you handle the emotions, is an important part of resolution. In most instances the events that spur litigation will be painful. Often someone you love and trust has violated that trust, or hurt you deeply. It is not uncommon, when one is hurt, or violated, to react in kind. These reactions though, can have a serious impact on the ultimate resolution of your matter. 

There is a theory called the "Principle of the Path" which states that direction, not intention, determines your destination. When we react out of emotion, typically our intention is to feel better, or to help cope. Our intentions can be to deflect from further hurt or pain. It is important that you have a trusted advisor that help you establish your long-term goals as soon as you can in the litigation process, even ahead of time if necessary. With goals in mind it becomes easier to act from a place of direction- you will be acting in a way to further those goals. Establish your direction early if you want to meet your goals. Take comfort in knowing what actions you should be taking, or not taking, to serve your ultimate goal, not the short-term goals emotional reactions meet. 

Do you need help setting your direction? Contact me, I'm happy to help.